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Love is like a butterfly … a rare and gentle thing…

All about Love and Loss

I titled this post “Love is like a butterfly” because I have just been writing this post on the bus, and the song of the same title is playing very loudly which makes me smile! In Sydney, drivers can play whatever music they like on their buses. It floats through the air, so loudly I am unable to hear the Go-Betweens on my iPod. The music transports back to the to the 70’s sitcom show Butterflies. It is also very apt as I am just been writing this blog post thinking about the fragility of life and how a delicate butterfly represents this.

Part of living is about losing, whether it’s a loss of a favourite item or a person we hold dearly in our lives. We can lose them to death, an endless non-physicality, or we can lose a relationship, children, grandchildren, or a friend; they don’t die but are removed from our present lives. Either way, the loss can be felt deeply and is often filled with deep pain and sorrow. Overcoming experiences of both can be a lifetime’s work.

” I have tears streaming down my face, this book is so beautiful. We think the book is lovely! ” The Child Bereavement Charity

Losing my Dad was the biggest physical loss of a person in my family and it happened back in 1999. My sister created a story about my dying dad it was her attempt to help our nieces and nephews to come to terms with the loss of our Dad. It was their first experience of loss. They were all young children under ten years old. I later created the book for my Mum as she loved the story and I wanted to bring our special family story to life, share the humour and love my Dad had for us all. It was hugely difficult time back in 1999 and sometimes one loss leads to another. Everyone’s story is different and in our case, we knew he was going to die soon…it was a case of when. Even so, nothing can prepare you for when they do leave you. I hope this book is of some use to you and your family and friends. Sending love to everyone who is going through loss and remembering the love of their loved ones.

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Things I have found useful relating to understanding loss

Dr Kubler Ross – and her Kubler Ross Curve can be a useful tool to explain the ups and downs of the grief process. Meditation of some kind is a good idea to have in your toolkit as it keeps you in touch with your inner feelings and well-being. You can find meditation in many ways whether sitting looking at the sea, being in nature, or following a set meditation practice.

Sadhguru is a big favourite of mine. He is an Indian Yogi and Mystic and he has a free app you can download to your phone and use daily, even when you don’t have a connection to the internet.

Sadhguru says there are 3 things we can do every morning. When you wake up in the morning celebrate you have woken up and not died during the night and check that the 5 people closest to you are alive too – then celebrate again, how lucky you are!

Namaste

Alice