A Eureka Moment

A Eureka Moment…

A Eureka moment

I can’t recall the last time I had a eureka moment. Well, this morning I can confirm I had one. Oh, what joy! You go around in life wondering what you are doing next and now I know. Whether I like my answer or not, it came and so I am going to give it a go.

I have been thinking what am I am going to do in my new life… but I am unsure and just going with the flow and trusting I will find my feet.  I am hoping that the new ideas that I have, at least one of them will stick. Today I am hoping I have the answer, (well at least for now).

The book that I have been working on, but also not working on.. whoops! I feel I have been given the right direction and now I feel totally sure of the title, I say confidently at last.  The image hasn’t been settled on. I can confirm the title is going to be Don’t Let My Dandelion Die…

Don’t Let My Dandelion Die

It’s such a relief, I was avoiding the whole book thing but now I know that it must be completed whether I like it or not. My eureka moment came this morning when I realised all I want to do is write. I haven’t been making the time, as I have been distracted by paid work and helping others. What I really need to do right now is to help myself and focus on doing what I had previously planned; which is preparing myself to pitch my book idea next week. So with a week to go I am going to get back on track and putting my heart and soul into this project.

The other idea that came to me today was what is my purpose in life onwards? I know I want to help others, but I wasn’t sure how to. Now I have decided I want to Coach people to help people reach their dreams and do what they love. It’s important to follow your own dreams and not the dreams of others or maybe you don’t know what your dreams are. Well,  I think deep down we all have a dream or two inside us and I would like to help bring that dream out into reality.

To read a bit about me or to look at the people and places I like in Bali, visit Love Your Work  and Books I Love 

Ps. If you are wondering about the pitch well it didn’t turn quite as expected…

Ps. Well watch this space and see if magic happens!

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New beginnings

New beginnings – 30 Sept 2017

A milestone day for me

NEW BEGINNINGS

New Beginnings:It is exactly 3 years to the day that I woke up to a completely new life. So the 30th September 2017 is a really significant day for me, it became my New Beginning. This day symbolizes a transition from one life into the next. Trust me, building a new life didn’t quite happen overnight, but after some shocking circumstances, I have made it through to the other side.
To help me into my new life I am found myself living in Ubud, Bali, in Indonesia  – something totally unplanned but a perfect place to be. This whole town seems to be made up of people going through some kind of transition and so to be living in this community of people seems like the most accepting place to be.  Everyone is here to heal something, Ubud in Balinese means healing and you only have to experience the energy of the place to feel the special healing energy –  it’s in the air. I am sure many people are living here who have probably been through a load of crap and now taking some time out to fully integrate into a new life or just on a holiday from their normal life ( which is often crap too).
new beginnings
It has been really helpful being away from the remnants of my old life, allowing me to freely move onto something new and allowing the time for the healing to take place. Back in the UK, as much as I love my friends and family – I felt dead, and I no longer fit into that life. There was no place for me and seeing me, was seeing the crap that had happened and no one wants to be reminded of that, including me.  I feel I have been given the greatest gift of being released into a new world, and for now the island of the Gods that is Bali; has called me be here. The beauty, the people, the weather, nature, everything… including the unpredictability of Mount Agung potentially going off at any minute this last week and especially today as I write this; the anxiety and trauma people may feel is not unfamiliar to me.
Going back to my story, I was told early one morning whilst half asleep in bed, some life-changing news and my only job from that day onwards, was to try and survive the events,  work on myself and eventually move into a new life.  I can safely say I have survived, it has been a long journey, but I am now happy and grateful for the new beginning – although it is not what I had in mind. I am making the most of it and I am living with the unknown as we do and accepting what is… (Thanks to Byron Katie).  I do not know what it will bring or who I will meet,  but I feel I am now equipped as best I can to move onwards.
I lost a lot in the last few years, not only my family home, husband, children, but my sanity, my freedom, extended family and close friends. I have gained enormous resilience ( although there was not a lot of choice in this, it came in useful) and now I have new friends (and old), a new temporary home, a new temporary Bali family and a life worth living.
I was given some unconditional acts of kindness on my way through in the darkest parts of my journey, and I have many people to thank for their unconditional support and I am grateful for their ongoing love.  I think you will know who you are so I would just like to say thank you Earth Angels – although I thought I was alone there were people appearing to help me, in the strangest of guises.
I am writing this to say that I now accept and forgive what has happened and I would firmly like to put it in my past; it’s just a story and one which is no longer relevant to me. I have embraced life and that is all that matters now. I am on a new adventure and writing is one of them. I have grown through this and found I can do it… but it so much nicer when others can help and be there too!
I love people and I just hope in writing about this I can help others who are struggling with their shit, I just want to say you can do it too! You can lose it all and somehow it can make your life richer in embracing a new life and letting go of the past one. Don’t give up and one thing I have learned which is the hardest thing to do, ( and I am still no expert ) is to ask for help. It does arrive, just keep on asking and it is given. The key is to listen and go within.
 
Life is for living and compassion and empathy are available you just have to look in the right places and start with yourself. One person who symbolizes all of this for me is the Dalai Lama and he helped show me the path to finding peace within myself. Namaste
DALAI LAMA
 

There is always and only hope

New life and new beginnings….
NEW BEGINNINGS
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Finding what you want in your life

Finding what you want in your life

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Finding what you want to do in your life…

Finding what you want in life. I have never really known what I wanted to do in my life. Not having had a clear direction or a really strong passion to follow has meant that I have fallen into a variety of careers. It has made me try out new areas I would never have imagined and I have often changed jobs in between traveling and trying to live abroad. I am once again at a new crossroads in my life where I would like to learn some new skills and utilize the ones I have.

Ask yourself the question if you could have your dream life, where or what would you be doing?

I do believe we all know deep down what we would really like to do in our lives, but often we leave it buried deep within and don’t make the effort to get out of our comfort zone for one reason or another.  We find excuses that hold us back, so make some time NOW to really take the opportunities available in our lives and to live out our dreams. I am working towards some of my dreams and I plan to build on them in the next year as 2018 is around the corner.

My Dream of Living Abroad 

I have always wanted to live abroad and I am currently in Bali, Indonesia, it’s taken some time to get here.  I am now living here and I love it. I couldn’t ever imagine living in the UK again. There are so many other places I would like to live too.

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My life and career hasn’t been dull and I have managed to work in lots of different creative industries over the years, but I never really found my niche in any of them. I have come to realize I am a bit of scanner, I get bored working in one area and so I need to do a variety of things and above all be creative. I enjoy the challenge of learning new things, not that I always find it easy, but I always have ideas about new avenues I would like to explore!

My last retraining was in Graphic Design Post Grad in Visual Communication at University of London 2011) which I absolutely loved with a passion, along with photography, they are my two favourite things. I find the constant use of lap-top though really doesn’t quite work with me that well anymore. My arms don’t like being on a keyboard constantly and my necks often aches from this. I have found a few solutions for this and my body is really benefitting from it.

  1. Using a mouse – I can’t use a laptop pad, it aches my hands in no time. By using my Mac mouse – it makes my life so much easier.
  2. Using my Satechi stand which is highly portable and won’t break as it super strong metal, which makes it light and stylish.
  3. Using a separate lightweight Mac keyboard, again super light and helps my posture no end.
  4. Using earphones and not holding my phone for conversations, it aches my hand, and you end up putting the phone in between your ear and neck and that creates tension in the neck area.
  5. My Muji laptop bag fits everything in and it gives me the option of creating a backpack or a shoulder bag, especially as I have an old Mac Book Pro – it’s heavier than the new MacBook’s that are out now. I love Muji for their stationery especially gel pens, and all the handy travel bottles and bags you can buy which are so handy when you are traveling.
  6. Whilst in Bali and having run out of my simple Muji notebooks I have found some really beautiful stationery at Saraswati Papers.  The journals are handcrafted by local Balinese women and made with recycling paper. They don’t use bleach or unsustainable practices. You can read about their educational programs. Visit here: Flagship Store Kado – Ubud Jalan Dewi Sita (corner of Gautama) Ubud, Bali, Indonesia Open Daily 10 am – 8 pm +62 361 886 3338
  7. Of course remembering to take breaks regularly, stretch your arms and move around a bit, and  I like to do a little meditation now and then for 5 or 10 minutes so I don’t get overwhelmed and it helps me keep my focus. I am a fan of doing five minutes of Yoga – no pressure to do a whole hour – a little is better than none at all.

Stepping into a new world

So I have decided now is the time to retrain again in something where I don’t have to spend all my time at a computer keyboard.  I am not sure what this will be but I hope my time in Bali I will find the answers to my new life and career.

Having said that I recently decided I would have a go at writing a book and although it is far from complete, I have a shape of a story in my first draft. I wrote the draft by hand, as it felt the most natural way to write, as I enjoyed connecting directly with a pen on paper I could feel the flow of writing, as opposed to writing it on a computer.

Again, I am stepping into another unknown world. I have practised many changes in my life and this I guess is just another one along the way

A tool that I learned recently from a webinar with John Williams –  Author of Screw Work Break Free is to write in a notebook every day – I WANT… I WANT… and practice this muscle so you will hopefully have a clearer idea of what you want to create in your life. Then after a few weeks look back at what you are wanting to bring into your life. I have found it quite interesting after only one week of doing this task. Some of the so-called “wants” I already had and others are some ideas for me to follow in the future.

Embrace change and find more joy in your life! Finding what you want in your life.

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Finding home

Finding home…

Finding Home Ubud, Bali

Currently living in Ubud, Bali, Indonesia

Finding Home: It’s nearly a year since I left the UK in search of a place to call home. What actually is a home? Is it a place, or the people that reside it in. I guess I was thinking that it would be a place, as I have only myself to live in the home. Without going in to any unnecessary detail I have suddenly found myself, single again and in search of a new country and place to call home. For now I have found myself unexpectedly and happily living in Ubud, Bali, a place where I feel a sense of belonging and connection.

It came as a surprise to me that I would feel so at home in Bali, a  place centred around family life when I am alone.  I think it must be the people as they so friendly, happy and kind.  The place has a feeling of acceptance and encompasses people from all over the world. It feels here that it doesn’t matter what has happened in your past life, it’s all about new beginnings and living in the moment, alongside the daily Balinese rituals of gratitude through their offerings. 

Finding a  place to call home?

I have realised I am looking for a place to settle for a while to call home but the real home is the search within myself, it’s more a feeling, and an emotional connection that makes me feel at home and maybe it’s not the actual place after all. Although living in Bali helps a lot as it’s such an uplifting beautiful place to be, especially Ubud as it seems to draw you into a vortex of positive energy.  I am finding a place within myself, a place to feel safe, a sense of belonging, a sense that people care and in return I can get to connect and care too! 

This month Reading:  Lion by Saroo Brierley

“ As a five year old in India, I became completely lost. Twenty five years later in Australia, I finally worked out how to find my way home” Saroo Brierley

I have just read the book Lion by Saroo Brierley and I found it quite an emotional book. You can easily connect with Saroo and his journey to find his previous home and family.  For me having gone through the long process of adoption myself,  I felt a deeper connection with the book that I had expected.  I can also relate to him in being lost and trying to find a place of safety and the right people to help him.  It is quite amazing how a young child of 5 years old and me as an adult can relate to the feelings and dilemmas of this small child. I often find the book I happen to be reading relates directly to my current life. Find the book here

Excited about: Ubud Writers Festival coming up in 25-29th October 2017

Buy tickets here and get 20% off

Lineup:  Check out the writers who will be speaking including Ian Rankin, Saroo Brierley… to name a few.

If you can’t afford a ticket you can always volunteer 

If you need help with finding some nice Accommodation try www.booking.com – I find it really easy using this app on your phone/or their website and you often have the option of a free cancellation so you can change your mind too! Click on my link and you get £15.00 your next booking.

There are lots of lovely Guest Houses in Ubud.

Here are some of my favourites:

Merthayasa Bungalow 2 – Jalan Hanuman – Central Ubud – with a pool

Uma Kutuh 2 – Jalan Tirtar Tawar – overlooking rice fields – 10 minutes out of town – with a pool

Junjungan Guesthouse – Jalan Tirtar Tawar – overlooking looking the jungle – with a pool – 15-20 minutes out of central Ubud.

If you fancy a place to get away from it all in total luxury and relaxation visit: Alassari Plantation 

Bali, Indonesia

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