For the moment I am happily settled in Ubud. Although I absolutely love dogs, this particular long-term dog sit I was offered didn’t quite work out for me in the end. The universe realised I needed my freedom and it signalled it through my body… so the choice was pain or let go! I choose to let go of a commitment instead of feeling the pain, a no-brainer but in the past, I would have just done it anyway! So a bit of bravery on my part to make a sudden change and throw my current plans in the air.
In life, you have to put your health first. I am sure I will do some dog sitting in the future, just not right now. The dogs were gorgeous three little poodles and they were so much fun to be around… Sometimes decisions are hard to make!
Learning from Experiences
In life and especially it seems when you are travelling and/or living in Bali; you have to adjust to the rapid changes taking place that help us to move on in our lives. It makes us learn from our past experiences without having to relive them. Honesty and trust are key qualities in moving forward and that means not only trusting others but trusting in ourselves.
Our beloved Marsh
On another dog note. Our beloved Marsh died this week and we all feel very sad and I just hope he has made a safe journey to doggie heaven. We are all grateful that he gave us so much love and joy. He will be forever in our hearts. Not being a dog lover he won me over and everyone he met, he was a very special soul. Thank you, Marsh – we miss you already!
My Favourite Guest house and my new family
I am back in my favourite guest house Merthayasa 2 with the lovely people who run it and they welcomed me back with open arms and I felt instantly ‘at home” so I am so grateful for their kindness to me and making me feel I belong here in Ubud. The sense of belonging and feeling cared for whilst living alone in a foreign country is something money can’t buy. The Balinese are very open-hearted, gentle people just the right type of people to be around in times of transition.
Gratitude is key in times of change. For me, my life has never really been planned, and what happened a few years back left me on a bit of cliffhanger and moving forward I needed to make some radical changes in my life. It all came as a huge shock and I am lucky to be in the place I am right now. It doesn’t bear thinking about any other outcomes but to live in the present and be eternally grateful that I have been very lucky and in the future, I hope I am able to reciprocate in helping others.
Some more of the lovely dogs I have met whilst living in Bali…the quickest way I find myself connected with compassion is through the temporary companionship of the many dogs I meet and interact within Bali and on my travels.
Connection, Compassion, and Companionship – Try it! –
Love is like a butterfly … a rare and gentle thing…
All about Love and Loss
I titled this post “Love is like a butterfly” becauseI have just been writing this post on the bus, and the song of the same title is playing very loudly which makes me smile! In Sydney, drivers can play whatever music they like on their buses. It floats through the air, so loudly I am unable to hear the Go-Betweens on my iPod. The music transports back to the to the 70’s sitcom show Butterflies. It is also very apt as I am just been writing this blog post thinking about the fragility of life and how a delicate butterfly represents this.
Part of living is about losing, whether it’s a loss of a favourite item or a person we hold dearly in our lives. We can lose them to death, an endless non-physicality, or we can lose a relationship, children, grandchildren, or a friend; they don’t die but are removed from our present lives. Either way, the loss can be felt deeply and is often filled with deep pain and sorrow. Overcoming experiences of both can be a lifetime’s work.
” I have tears streaming down my face, this book is so beautiful. We think the book is lovely! ” The Child Bereavement Charity
Losing my Dad was the biggest physical loss of a person in my family and it happened back in 1999. My sister created a story about my dying dad it was her attempt to help our nieces and nephews to come to terms with the loss of our Dad. It was their first experience of loss. They were all young children under ten years old. I later created the book for my Mum as she loved the story and I wanted to bring our special family story to life, share the humour and love my Dad had for us all. It was hugely difficult time back in 1999 and sometimes one loss leads to another. Everyone’s story is different and in our case, we knew he was going to die soon…it was a case of when. Even so, nothing can prepare you for when they do leave you. I hope this book is of some use to you and your family and friends. Sending love to everyone who is going through loss and remembering the love of their loved ones.
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Things I have found useful relating to understanding loss
Dr Kubler Ross – and her Kubler Ross Curve can be a useful tool to explain the ups and downs of the grief process. Meditation of some kind is a good idea to have in your toolkit as it keeps you in touch with your inner feelings and well-being. You can find meditation in many ways whether sitting looking at the sea, being in nature, or following a set meditation practice.
Sadhguru is a big favourite of mine. He is an Indian Yogi and Mystic and he has a free app you can download to your phone and use daily, even when you don’t have a connection to the internet.
Sadhguru says there are 3 things we can do every morning. When you wake up in the morning celebrate you have woken up and not died during the night and check that the 5 people closest to you are alive too – then celebrate again, how lucky you are!